Im not the exception!
Updated: Aug 3, 2022
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We all come from somewhere!
Who gave us this impression that therapy is bad? That something is wrong? That is is a sign of weakness or brokenness?
I can tell you… someone who wants you….who wants us to stay in a bad situation, that doesn't want us to know a better way to thrive and wants us to stay in a weakened broken state.
HARSH, maybe, but I feel like it's the truth. This narrative is the result of us generations of uninformedness.
The reality is that we all come from somewhere. We all come from an environment. Regardless of how right or wrong we think it is, we carry it with us every day. We expect interactions to happen a certain way because of our somewhere. We expect conversation to flow in a specific direction because of our somewhere. We expect things to happen or NOT happen because of our somewhere.
FACT- The fact that we ALL come from somewhere qualifies us all for THERAPY.
We need help unpacking that somewhere
Now everyone’s somewhere is different. EVEN if you grew up in the same house you can process the experiences in your somewhere differently.
Somewhere… your community, household, neighborhood, school. There are a ton of factors that make up the somewhere that we come from. Between those location we can’t number the formidable experiences that we have had. But we must admit that they HAVE FORMED US. Much of who we are is relative to our experience.
“We are the sum total of our experiences. Those experiences – be they positive or negative – make us the person we are, at any given point in our lives. And, like a flowing river, those same experiences, and those yet to come, continue to influence and reshape the person we are, and the person we become. None of us are the same as we were yesterday, nor will be tomorrow.”
BJ Neblett
There is a quote that says we are the sum total of our experiences, BUT i say we are the total of those experiences and our responses to them!! I always say “We’re Graced For This” but being graced for it doesn’t mean that you go though the journey unaware, uninformed and unprepared.
Every aspect of our life adds to our lives' entire journey. Some trips are longer than others, but who travels without a map.
Remember when we would print out the mapquest instructions for navigation? What about those biig oversize map books? I remember when “Garmin” for navigation were first a thing. BWAH. They were so SLOW.
This journey of being YOU is unique.
Your somewhere is unique.
The SOMEONE is YOU!
There is only one you.
Your somewhere, with your eyes has made you who you are. Equip yourself by unpacking who your somewhere has made you to be.
Create the roadmap to you. Literally, who else is going to know how to navigate it. NOBODY for $300 Alex! You have to survey the terrain first. That is NOT EASY!
The terrain of your somewhere has good, bad and ugly parts. BUT there is good news….. On the other side you are better equipped for the rest of your journey.
What about everyone else's somewhere?
Sometimes I'm a bit egocentric. Sometimes I'm too selfless. I have recently learned how much better of a human I can be to other people’s somewhere, when I'm aware of my own.
I see more, hear more, talk less. Empathize, understand and support who others are as a result of their somewhere. B U T…. Supporting others in their somewhere doesn't mean you subject yourself to their mismanagement of their somewhere and how it affects them.
Having that awareness about yourself FIRST is paramount.
Therapy is loving yourself first.
Therapy is becoming a more refined version of yourself.
Therapy is getting the lessons from what your life has taught you!
Now FRIEND…… I love you BIG 🧡!
GO GET a THERAPIST!
If you’re new here … i hope that ride was t too rocky. We keep it 100% human over here. You’re welcome to stay and embrace your human journey ask well.
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